I was able to reset the power state, but when I wanted to start it on the remaining host, it returned an error:
SR_BACKEND_FAILURE_46(, The VDI is not available [opterr=['HOST_OFFLINE', 'OpaqueRef:34e590d8-19ab-eb89-af81-5eead08952d1']], )
Apparently there were still locks on the disk, so I looked up the uuid and removed it from the pool database
xe vdi-forget uuid=....
Next I gave it a new name, attached it to the VM and was able to restart the VM.
Thanks for pointing me in the right direction !