Figured it out!
1st thing...thank you for your quick responses.
If anyone else is having problems here was my problem/solution. I had originally installed using a github script from ronivay (not sure if I can put full links in here but google github ronivay XenOrchestraInstallerUpdater...better yet youtube "How To Build XO From Sources on Debian 10 Using XenOrchestraInstallerUpdater" big thankyou to Lawrence Systems.
From there I went into the readme.md where it said the username is xo and pass is xopass (I actually had changed my password but was missing the u/n of xo). Then I got in...hope it helps someone else.
Who new that rtfm would actually work? (Collective forehead smack of all the admins heard across the internet). In all honesty I did read the xcp-ng docs before posting but was looking in the wrong area as I had run the github script so thanks again oliverlambert and Danp for pointing me in the right direction.